STRESS

Big D is stressing over the custody hearing tomorrow because the ex lawyered up. I personally haven't spent any meaningful amount of time with her; definitely not enough to be any kind of a judge of her character. All I have to go on is what Big D tells me and how the kids behave. They usually don't relish the idea of going to their mother's every other weekend and extended stays on alternating holidays consist of phone calls to Big D asking if they can come home.

This is what I know... It has been an on again off again relationship in which she is the one that leaves; not taking the kids with her. They have always stayed with Big D no matter what. Now all of a sudden she wants them to live with her and she went out and hired herself a lawyer. There is no history of domestic violence or anything like that. They just both want custody. She is staying with her sister and they would all have to share one room. We are getting ready to have a 4 bedroom house (two kids per room) and 5 acres of land in about a week.

So what's my point? The judge is not going to give her custody just because she all of a sudden decides to she wants them and hired a lawyer. But Big D gets upset when I try to tell him he has nothing to worry about. He feels like I'm minimizing his fears. So he has been withdrawn this past week and I can't help him. And it makes me feel pushed aside and useless. Selfish on my part? Maybe. But I can't help feeling that way when he acts like a typical man and won't talk about how he's feeling. Especially when he's normally not a typical man. So tensions are high and I'm just trying to ride out the wave.


(At mediation she said she wanted to try to reconcile. Which just pisses me off. Because you had your chance, now he's mine, so BACK OFF!)

Meanwhile, my ex wants me to put his name on G's birth certificate so he can come back to the states from England. To this day he has not supported his son at all, yet he has the nerve to send me this e-mail...

Date: Tuesday, February 7, 2012, 9:13 AM

DON'T Take this the wrong way. I'm happy to give you money for our son for his upkeep. But please tell me what I'm geting for my money? I don't get to see him. I don't get to put my name on his birth papers. I tired to get your account info so I could give you money for xmas, I never got any word back from you. When you did contact me you said you had problems with your cell. When I asked you about geting my name on his birth paper you told me you did not trust me. Were that comes from I don't know.

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A little later he sent me a picture of his big brand new TV. Why, you may ask. Well, I just couldn't tell ya; because I don't know either. So I asked him why he can afford such a nice TV but not child support and he responded with this today...

Date: Tuesday, April 10, 2012, 11:51 AM

- my tv cost $35000 with the surround sound dvd 3d blue ray recorder 1000 watts my money my choice

- the ipad is a 65gb $800 my choice

- no car not at the moment as I'm saving for it oh and its a bmw z4 2010 M

- I've a son here at university, my cost, my son, my name on his birth papers.

 All I want is my name on my sons birth papers

Do you have a lawyer?

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Does he think he's going to impress me with all of his material belongings or scare me into submission? I told him to go f**k himself.