Let's start with the oldest and work our way down to the youngest...
Big D still hasn't been able to get his carpel tunnel surgery because of all the runarounds he's been getting with insurance, and he can't get a real job until his hands are fixed. So he continues with the odd jobs here and there. So far we are staying afloat. He also puts stinky cologne on while sleeping in the middle of the night.
I have been trying to keep my sanity amidst all the insanity this family bestows upon me. My chickens are my zen. I can sit out there and watch them for hours. The shower used to be my zen, but kids seem to gravitate toward the sound of running water. Even if there is another adult human being wandering around the house fully dressed and completely dry. Why is this? I also help, when needed, with the odd jobs.
N has a new friend 2 years his senior at the Jr. High who has a very colorful vocabulary. That fact combined with the fact that the friend isn't required to get permission before a friend spends the night (or 3) makes me quite uncomfortable. Big D doesn't seemed fazed at all by it and it's just a new source of a fight, so I tend to keep my mouth shut when it comes to his kids. (He tends to get defensive). But alas, he is grounded until he brings his F up on his report card. So my worries are eased for the time being.
T is also currently grounded, but for 2 F's, not just one. Being grounded really doesn't change things for her much since it doesn't really take anything away from her. I really don't know how to help her bring her grades up. Those of you who are my friends and family know that she always gets advanced scores on the state testing and she used to be on the honor roll, so she's absolutely smart. She just doesn't do her class work so ends up accumulating many missing assignments. Even though she stays after school for "tutoring". (Which is basically just after school detention). I think she's just like me, painfully shy, teased a lot and very easily distracted. I got bad grades because I absolutely hated school, with all it's social pressures and boring teachers, even though I always aced my tests. I don't know what to do, maybe homeschooling is the answer.
J has done surprisingly well in the first quarter of school, but I think it's starting to get to him. Just in the second quarter (which just started the beginning of October) he's been kicked off the bus twice. (I honestly don't know why they keep letting him back on, since he's not supposed to be riding it in the first place). His teacher has also called me twice for his behavior. He's been yelling out in class and won't stay seated. All the same stuff as last year. And his tics are getting worse again. Yesterday I had to pick him up from school and the principal told me he spit on somebody. When I got home and asked him about it, he said the girl called him stupid and ugly, so he blew raspberries at her. I talked to the principal and told him about how the previous school kept giving us the runaround with his evaluation and acquiring an IEP and he said he would call them and request his files. So hopefully we won't have to start all over. Other than that, he's still very funny and becoming quite the bookworm.
A is starting to lose interest in her mother, whom she hasn't seen since the middle of summer break. (Her mom's choice). She's still a fashion Diva (think Punky Brewster) and stubborn as all hell. She reminds me of my little sister. Argues for argument's sake. And nothing is ever good enough good enough for her. But she doesn't hate me anymore, so we're making some progress there.
Small D is still completely loyal to his mother and wants to go live with her, which is totally fine. What pisses me off about it is not understanding how a mother could just write off her kids like that? It pisses me off that she puts us in the painful position of having to watch her children be hurt by her, and think it's Big D keeping them away from her because we refuse to talk bad about her by telling them the truth. She's a stupid drug addict. Just like my mom was. And I hate her.
Ahem.... Small D is doing very well in school. His behavior is perfect. He's polite and shares and takes turns and is just generally very nice. The complete opposite of what he is here. And he still hate his step family.
Big D is taking them both down the hill to see their mother (supervised). They have the option of staying the weekend with their aunt, for supervised visitation. Small D is completely excited whereas A is all kinds of upset. She does not want to see her mom at all. Big D isn't going to force her to stay the weekend if she doesn't want to.
G is talking much better, however he is still quite delayed. I'm thinking about having him evaluated. Maybe slightly autistic or something? I really don't know, but he's like an entire year behind his peers, developmentally. He is the sweetest and most well behaved of the bunch. He is quite sensitive and his feeling are easily hurt. He needs a softer touch for sure. He is starting to pick up some of his sibling bad habits though, like talking back and arguing.
The dogs are great, the cat is coming into his own, at nearly a year old now, and the chickens provide me with endless zen....
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I haven't blogged in a while because I really want these to be cheery and upbeat but I just haven't had a whole lot of that lately, with the constant job searches and non-stop bills. You know how it is. Hopefully Halloween will provide me with better material.
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